Dear Friend,

It’s 5:55am (or at least it was when I started writing this) and I’m outside my beach hut in Swanage, overlooking the bay, having a little daydream.

I’ve come to think about the single biggest roadblock every salon/spa owner needs to face.

FEAR.

Why?

Well, you simply cannot be successful if every time you come to the point of taking important actions you are frozen, rock solid with fear.

There are no two ways about it.

You will never succeed if most of the time you are scared witless.

That’s why I’m offering to give you actions you can take once a month to remove fear (the biggest obstacle to success) – forever.

Happily, if you can overcome fear, your success is almost automatic. It seems like the easiest thing in the world.

The two big bad fears you need to keep your eye on are:

1. Fear of success

2. Fear of failure

Good news!

You can overcome both these roadblocks to your success.

Most people don’t realise just how powerful fear of success actually is. For many it’s even more powerful than fear of failure.

Fear of success stems from negative self-image.

“Henry – stop daydreaming – don’t set your sights too high.”

“There’s no way you’ll make it.”

“Henry – you are the worst salesman we’ve ever had – you’re fired.”

In my life my parents were very supportive yet they wanted me to follow a pre-defined path. School, college, university, steady job. Without realising it, they were actually hurting me.

While at the age of 10 I would sit for hours calculating how much it would cost me to buy and own a Ferrari Testarossa right down to the cost of tyres and wiper blades – they were increasing my fears by simply trying to protect me from risk and uncertainty.

My dream was that I would never have to get up every day at 6am, travel for hours to a job I hated and then return at 8pm and be so knackered I wouldn’t be able to interact with my family. Instead, I’d be spend all day doing the things I loved while my finances remained rock solid.

But, they offered me a strong message that almost sabotaged my dreams and plans of success.

My parents responded to my stated goals by saying, “Don’t set your sights too high.”

“Instead you should get a good job, settle down, buy a house and have a family,” they said.

Of course, the last thing I wanted was to follow the ‘normal’ path. Nothing wrong with the ‘normal’ path for someone else. But it could never be for me.

However, my parents often repeated message had a major effect on me nevertheless.

Whenever I stumbled and had inevitable setbacks, the negative self-talk kicked in.

It was as though I played the same CD in my head over and over.

I’d say to myself, “Maybe everybody else is right and your parents are right. What is a little, shy, reclusive guy like me, with no special talents, with no money or contacts, doing trying to buck the ‘norm’ and achieve my dreams?”

But then I’d switch my train of thought and play a new CD that said, “Suppose everybody else and my parents are wrong – look, I’m no less worthy of achieving my goals than Richard Branson, Bill Gates or anyone for that matter!”

And thank the Lord they were!

I found a new self-talk which helped me. To enforce a positive self image I’d sit back 3 or 4 times a day (and still do), close my eyes and visualize myself in the exact successful positions I wanted.

And not just ‘business type’ things.

In my teens and early twenties I was a huge motorcycle fan (not anymore, dangerous things… It doesn’t hurt as much falling off a jetski…). At the time the world’s fastest production road bike was a Yamaha R1. I used to visualise hurtling down country lanes in Hampshire overtaking Ferraris, Porsches and leaving everything in the dust. At the age of 24 I picked up a brand new R1.

Bored with the R1 I began visualising owning a brand new Porsche cabriolet in jet black with red leather interior. I’d visualise hot sunny days and trips down to Swanage to the beach, wind in my hair the sound of the straight six echoing as I passed under bridges. At the age of 27 I picked up my first brand new Porsche.

About 18 months ago I decided to start coaching my younger brother (he’s in a wheelchair) on how he could reach the £400,000 he needs a year to live the independent life he wants. He wanted to write a book and he wanted a continuing income (he was only 16 then and had absolutely no knowledge of how to write or sell a book). I began to run ‘movies in my mind’ of him with his completed book, critical accliam and him sat at BBC promoting his book. About six weeks ago there he was sat talking live on the BBC for 30 minutes about his book (his book is entitled “How to Get the Perfect Care Package” and is the UKs first guide to navigating the social care system for people with disabilities and/or illness.)

If you or loved one is in need of social care for example you know someone young or old with Alzheimer’s, MS, a disability, erious illness or even just ‘old age’ then George’s book will help you get support you need and avoid the ‘pain’ he and our family endured spending years battling for the right care. It took George nearly 10 years to get what he needs… Visit: http://www.howtogetcare.com for more details).

I’ll stop there because some of my examples are truly unbelievable.

The lesson?

The best way I found to overcome fear of success is through visualizing what I wanted to happen in my life. This made it real for me.

And then taking the action necessary to bring the result into reality.

Through my imagination alone, I could see myself achieving what my critics said I could not.

To make your dreams real, imagine what achieving them would make you feel. Add to your imagination as many details of your success as possible. You’ll be thrilled to start seeing it all actually happen in your life.

Fear of success becomes impotent once you can actively visualize the outcome you want that others say can’t be done. And, of course, taking the required actions.

While fear of success can stop you cold, fear of failure is to most aspiring people even more powerful.

To begin to overcome fear of failure let’s look at it realistically.

First off… Statistics tell us most things I attempt in business will not succeed. Nor will they for you either.

Every successful person I’ve studied has experienced far more failures than successes (in took Thomas Edison 10,000 odd tries to make the lightbulb…).

Therefore a high failure rate for any achiever is as normal and predictable as any principle about nature or the universe. To succeed in a big way you simply must accept failures as part of your journey to success. Don’t worry about them, be PLEASED about them.

Would you be willing to try again and again if you knew that as long as you didn’t stop you WOULD ‘hit the big time’? If so, I can assure you of this.

You are unstoppable!

You will absolutely become a huge winner in life!

I have a number of favourite failure/success mentors. But my biggest insights have some from exposure to the biographies of famous entrepreneurs that I found in books.

The most brilliant entrepreneurs of the 20th century each had several failures before they finally succeeded.

While I’ve yet to experience and savour bankruptcy (and it wouldn’t worry me if I did because I know I can ‘do it all again’ and better), I’ve had huge chunks of regular business disappear ‘overnight’ wiping me back to zero on 3 occasions. And I learned far more from those than all my successes combined!

The most liberating thing to me about actually experiencing failure is this.

Nothing bad actually happens!

The sun rises and sets each day. Creditors who supplied you before often want to do business with you again. Many will want to extend credit.

Customers who buy from you don’t care about your previous setback as long as you satisfy their wants in your new business.

If you ver your head in debt now, keep this in mind.

You are not alone. Millions find themselves in this position.

But there is a solution!

Even if you have to start again at your beginnings.

** What about having a mentor? **

You can undoubtedly become a big success with the help of a mentor. Someone who can answer your questions. Critique your marketing. And help you avoid so many mistakes.

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Dedicated to helping you slay fear and reach for the stars,

Henry.

P.S. Remember, you have nothing to lose. If you do not test drive my VIP Inner Circle mentoring program now, without risk of any kind, I’m going to report you to the “thought police.”

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